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dharmadeer's avatar

This is so well articulated and reflects the role women have been raised to accept— love is responsibility for someone else. I’m working on it now, I have been raised to think you have to sacrifice your needs in order to really love or prove that you’re “ride or die.” it creates so much imbalance and there’s no room for you anymore. It’s all about someone else. Thank you for this beautiful post.

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This article resonates on so many levels. I see so much of who I have been for most of my life and even more of who the mirror of life has been forcing me to finally see for the last 8 months of my life. Unfortunately the awakening to this side of me had to come on the heels of ruining a relationship that I truly wanted to take to the alter, its strange how in the chaos so much clarity has been found so much healing has been gained. I say that knowing the work is not at all done but I can acknowledge the growth that has occurred. I find myself having conversations with ppl whom I would have normally withheld for fear of being vulnerable. Addressing childhood issues with my parents, offering space to Exs to voice to me their experience good bad and indifferent I dating me. Leaning more on God each day and also crying more than I ever have in life. The work isnt easy I spend most days feeling like im loosing my mind, loosing my grip on manhood or what I believed it to be. It's so hard to exists in this space of openness when ive always been so guarded out of concern for coming across as weak. Thank you for writing this I truly believe God speaks through you so many times what you offer comes as a confirmation and reassurance that God is working on something huge not only in my life but within my spirit helping me break through the armor of ultra tough man ive built over the years as protection from a cold uncaring world. I appreciate you so much and pray God continue to bless all that you touch.

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